wfmw: just say no

I had the t-shirt. You know the one, kelly green, big white circle with the words “Just say no.” inside.  I totally wish I still had that shirt, not that it would even come close to fitting, but it would go great on the t-shirt quilt I’ve been working on for 5 years a while. 

More and more though I am realizing the importance of saying, “no,” at the right times and for the right reasons. College was my season of “yes,” I did everything, I went everywhere. It’s midnight and I have a test tomorrow, do I want to play disc golf? “Of course!” ………. Everyone is going out to dinner and I have no money, do I want to go? “Sure”………You get the idea.  In grad school work took precedence and I got better at saying no (though I still couldn’t turn down disc golf at any hour).  Once we were married it got even easier to say no to going out and doing “stuff” all the time, it was great to have time for just the two of us.

I see more now the importance of saying no in so many different areas of my life:

Saying no to things. This covers a huge variety of topics but with increasing gas prices, living on one income, a baby on way, we area learning to say no to a lot of the tangible “stuff” that the world hawks to us. DVDs, expensive foods, fancy new phones every year, fashionable clothes, knick-knacks that clutter up our home, etc. Saying no to these things keeps our budget in check and keeps our lives simpler and free from clutter.

Saying no to “doing.”  I love to go out, Jon is content to stay home and veg pretty much all the time though and this has rubbed off on me some. I’m learning that you don’t have to go to movies or out to dinner or go on a big vacation to have fun, staying at home and being creative can be just as great. Making homemade pizza, renting a movie from the library, reading outloud to each other, going for walks, etc. These are all ways that we avoid the urge to “go and do” and it really gives us more quality time together and keeps life simpler.

Saying no to a spirit of discontent. Sometimes I feel like we say no to everything. Yes, I would love to take an extra trip each month to visit friends or family, but the gas budget doesn’t allow it. Yes, I want that wonderful $5 single scoop of ice cream from the over-priced ice cream shop. Yes, I want to keep that cute little picture even though I have no where to hang it in my home. Sometimes it’s a battle, a fight to be content and happy in saying no, to really remind myself that “things” and events aren’t the makings of a happy life.

On a side note… I am slightly concerned that our child’s first words are going to be “No Finn!” I counted, I’ve told that silly cat “no” 4 times just while sitting here writing this post! Maybe it’s just Finn’s goal in life to give me practice at Just Saying No.

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One Response

  1. I definitely need to work on the third one, I find myself feeling discontent far too often given all I am blessed with. Thanks for the reminder!

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