Together Struggles

This morning I had a meeting to discuss the book The Masculine Mandate. I asked the group a question about how to bring my family up in the admonition of the Lord. I told them that Emily and I were struggling, specifically me as the spritiual leader of the family of how to do this.

Come to find out. All of them have struggled or are struggling with the same thing. I thought it was interesting that most of them said the key is “I have served my wife”. Oh how my eyes continue to be opened to understanding the different ways to serve the King. One of them is to serve my wife.

My take away from todays conversation is by serving my wife I can have a glimpse or a small taste of the infinite joy to come. Today I am going to try to do small things to serve my wife by not focusing on the mudpies but enjoying my time with Emily by conversing with her and serving her around the house.

Grace and peace,


What is our story?

Everyone has a story to tell. Teamwylie (as my wife and I like to call ourselves) is lost in how to tell our story. We seem to focus on the “mud pies” of life where we cannot even imagine a holiday at the sea. The quote below by C. S. Lewis is where my wife picked the address to this blog:

“We are halfhearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”

So I at least want to admit my reason for borrowing this site from my wife is because I love the idea of understanding infinite joy. More than that, I want to experience infinite joy. So where do we begin? Do we try to see the mud pies in our lives? Or Do we focus on the holiday at the sea? I do not believe I have an answer but again this brings me back to trying to figure out how to be content with the uncertain in my life and to press onward to gaze deeper and stay longer in the presence of the KING, my King and Savior.


Uncertainty is considered to be a negative thing here in the 21st century. I am constantly hearing “create goals”, “have a vision”, and “focus on your future” from those around me. What if this philosophy is not written on our hearts? What if we are wired to be content with the uncertainty given to us in our daily life?

These are the things that Emily and I are struggling with right now. Where do we go next? What kind of job will I have? How do we support our children? The struggles of understanding how to find purpose in the everday things such as work, cleaning the dishes, reading books to our children, grocery shopping, and sleep. All of these things need and are good within themselves but where are our hearts.

Can you bear uncertainty? is a blog post by Jon Bloom on Desiring God that rocked my world.

Uncertainty is a good thing. Even the creator and savior of the world did not have a place to lay his head. My prayer is my focus will be to focus on my current situation. To meditate how I can use the next staff meeting, task that is due, or conversation with students or coworkers to spread the “good news”. Oh that I would seek and long after Jesus.

Grace and peace,

Day 1

So I have taken over this blog from my wife. My goal is to reflect about struggles and successes of life. So today is day 1. We are struggling with what is next in our lives. Where do we go? What are we to do next?. So I am going to be short for today as my student group has just cut me off during the meeting.

To be content vs. press onward. What about the uncertainty? How do we deal with this. Oh dear friends if I had the answer, then we would probably be not as stressed.

Note to Emily, my beloved bride of 1560 days. My goal is that these thoughts will guide our conversations but thought it might be nice to save it online for our children to see what we were thinking when they were younger.

Grace and peace,